Friday, January 23, 2015

Death by intolerance: Lessons from Leelah Alcorn's demise


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The death of Leelah Alcorn sparked a heightened advocacy to and the challenges transgender individuals face and the protection of their rights. In her final note on Tumblr, Leelah, 17 years old, wrote: “The only way I will rest in peace is if one day transgender people aren't treated the way I was, they're treated like humans, with valid feelings and human rights."

Her words conveyed a feeling of vulnerability, and most importantly hope that one day society may understand the needs and experiences of others.



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Those who fail to see the hidden meaning in Leelah’s death could be missing an important lesson in society. Here are some thoughts worth pondering:

Acceptance and support mean the world to LGBT people. Leelah didn’t commit suicide because she didn’t want to live. She ended her life to escape the living hell her parents had given her. She experienced terrible pains from her own family who made her feel that it was wrong to be transgender.

All lives matter. Compassion, empathy, and our ability to identify with the experience of others make us all human. Leelah’s death is a wakeup call for equality. It’s an outcry of spontaneous passion and love for everyone.

Homosexuality is not an illness. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the world’s largest national lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights organization, stresses the dangers of conversion therapy for homosexuals. The organization states that “reparative therapy” and other similar efforts to “cure” homosexuality do not work, despite scientific studies purporting their effectiveness. Some significant evidence also show that such “treatment” is harmful to LGBT people in terms of significant medical, psychological, and other repercussions to the individual.

Leelah’s message ignited a powerful voice of compassion and tolerance not only for the LGBT community but also for humanity. Just as her note asked that her death really mean something, it really did, and hopefully it will bring change in society.



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Friday, December 12, 2014

REPOST: New National Study: Five Things You Should Know About Aging and LGBT People


Another problem arises for the LGBT community now that many are getting older and discrimination of LGBT seniors are still rampant in society. This Huffington Post article discusses the five things people should know about the aging LGBT population.



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Much has been written about the growing number of older people in this country (as the baby boom generation rapidly ages), as well as the incremental shift in favorable policies and attitudes toward certain segments of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) population. However, less public attention has been placed on the intersection of these two trends: how LGBT people experience aging, beginning in midlife all the way through later life.

A new research report—Out and Visible: The Experiences and Attitudes of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Older Adults, Ages 45-76—sheds new light on these issues. Based on a 2014 nationally representative study of more than 1,800 LGBT people and more than 500 non-LGBT people, Out and Visible extensively describes how LGBT people feel and experience areas such as healthcare, finance and retirement, support systems, housing and more. The study was commissioned bySAGE and led by Harris Poll.

Here are five things this new study reveals about LGBT older people’s experiences with aging.

1. LGBT older people are concerned about their financial futures and feeling that they need to work much further into later life.  Moreover, many LGBT older people rely largely on their own knowledge and education for retirement planning.


According to this new study, 42 percent of LGBT older people are very or extremely concerned that they will outlive the money they have saved for retirement, as compared to 25 percent of non-LGBT people; and half of all single LGBT older believe they will need to work well beyond retirement age. These findings speak to the importance of public policies that protect and support employment among LGBT people, as well as the critical role that financial planning has on one’s retirement outlook (as two solutions). Additionally, single LGBT people have different needs than partnered LGBT people that merit specific attention (among other characteristics explored in this study).

2. LGBT older people report fearing that if their sexual orientations and gender identities become known by healthcare or long-term care providers, as two examples, they will experience judgment, discrimination and inferior care.


Out and Visible notes that 43 percent of single LGBT older people and 40 percent of LGBT older people age 60 and older say their healthcare providers don't know about their sexual orientations. Two-thirds (65 percent) of transgender older adults fear that they will experience limited access to healthcare as they age. Prior research has documented significant health disparities among LGBT older people, spurred by a combination of poor healthcare access and the stressors of stigma and discrimination. In contrast, candid communication between LGBT people and their providers could play a role in improving their quality of care and ultimately, their overall health and well-being.

3. The support networks of LGBT older people are shrinking, and the housing outlook for many LGBT older people isn't optimistic either.


This new study reveals that 40 percent of LGBT older people report that their support networks have become smaller over time, as compared to 27 percent of non-LGBT people. Additionally, one in eight (13%) LGBT people and one in four (25%) transgender people say they have been discriminated against when searching for housing on the basis of their sexual orientations and gender identities, respectively. Secure housing and a supportive network of friends are essential to all people as they age, especially in preventing poverty and social isolation—yet this study shows that LGBT people might be compromised in this regard.

4. LGBT people are diverse and not a monolith—and this study reveals distinct differences that are relevant to providers, government and the broader private sector.

Two notable examples from this study. According to this study, African American LGBT older people are three times as likely as White or Hispanic LGBT older people to say that people from their churches or faith are part of their support systems. Moreover, transgender older people tend to be more worried about being a burden to their loved ones (48% vs. 32%), and knowing where they will live as they grow older (42% vs. 27%) than their cisgender (non-transgender) peers. The study shows additional differences across income, age, relationship status and more.

5. LGBT older people aspire to take on many of the same activities as their non-LGBT peers—yet this study shows that LGBT people are more likely to want to serve as mentors and many fear what might transpire with these options if their sexual orientations and gender identities become known.


According to the study, LGBT and non-LGBT older people cite similar interests for their retirement years: taking part in leisure activities, travel, volunteering, starting a hobby, working part-time and joining social groups. However, key differences also emerged. According to the study, LGBT older people are twice as likely as non-LGBT older people to envision themselves mentoring others (14% vs. 7%). Also, one in four (27%) LGBT older people and one in three (33%) transgender older people feels that work or volunteer activities will not be open to him/her if others know about his/her sexual orientation and gender identity, respectively.

This study builds on a growing body of research over the last few years that has increasingly, though insufficiently, studied aging concerns among LGBT older people.The report also offers a host of recommendations for leaders in the public and private sectors, most of which are largely centered on the importance of becoming more responsive to the diversity of LGBT people as they age. We’re all aging, regardless of where we fall on the age spectrum, and we deserve to age into systems that enrich our lives, not hinder them.  In this sense, we can all play a role in building a more equitable society.

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Thursday, November 20, 2014

Aging: What it means to gay men

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It is often said that life gets better as people get older. For gay people, however, coming into terms with aging can be a lot more difficult.

In a Psychology Today article, Dr. Michael C. LaSala, explains that growing older can be particularly challenging for gay men due to the gay male culture, which largely focuses on beauty, youth, and sexual attractiveness. Thus, gay men who are bound to live longer must face the challenge of their declining attractiveness in the society.

Another factor that leads to depression is the lack of support from families and friends. A survey published by The Guardian notes that thousands of gay people are growing older without the same family and support structures that many straight people enjoy.



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For the LGBT community, the prospect of solitary living in their old age has become a consistent problem. Because compared to their heterosexual peers, they feel less secured in many aspects of their lives and are not confident of having the life support they need as they grow age.

To age gracefully and happy, experts suggest that gay men must learn to dismantle the idea of real beauty by committing to look beyond the surface of physical attractiveness. Furthermore, they must also strive to get comfort and support from the people who understand them.

Ultimately, they must remind themselves are also entitled to live their senior years in a healthy, loving, and accepting environment.


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Friday, October 10, 2014

REPOST: Senior LGBT Housing Planned For Suffolk County


Suffolk County officials and LGBT advocates announced its plan for the metropolitan area’s  first gay-friendly senior housing facility. This article from the CBS New York shares this exciting project.



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Suffolk County Executive Steve Bellone (middle) joins LGBT advocates and business leaders to announce a proposed LGBT-friendly senior housing facility in Bay Shore. (Photo credit: Suffolk County Executive's Office) | newyork.cbslocal.com



BAY SHORE, N.Y. (CBSNewYork/AP) — Officials on eastern Long Island are announcing plans for the metropolitan area’s first affordable housing development for senior lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender residents. The Long Island GLBT Services Network says the 50-unit development is planned for a site in Bay Shore. Suffolk County Executive Steve Bellone and other community leaders are supporting the project.

The group’s executive director, David Kilmnick, said construction should begin next year with occupancy in 2016.

The project also includes a 6,000-square-foot LGBT community center.

As WCBS 880’s Alex Silverman reported, today’s gay seniors grew up at a time when discrimination and hostility were allowed and often encouraged.

“And many of those folks who they grew up with are now the ones in retirement and other senior living facilities,” Kilmnick said.

Kilmnick said that’s enough to force them back into the closet.

“And no one should have to do that,” he said.

Applicants will have to meet federal affordable housing qualifications. Kilmnick said straight applicants also are welcome.

The project is a partnership between the GLBT Network and a private developer.

The development would be the fifth in the country and the first in the New York tri-state area.

More inspiring stories about LGBT seniors can be read by visiting this Rainbow Vision Santa Fe blog.

Friday, September 19, 2014

LGBT community more prone to mental health issues



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A recent survey revealed that members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community are more prone to suffer certain types of mental illnesses compared to heterosexuals. This Cambridge University survey found that 12 percent of lesbian women and almost 19 percent of bisexual women had mental health problems. This is contrasted with only 6 percent of heterosexual women with the same type of mental condition. On the other hand, 11 percent of gay men and nearly 15 percent of bisexual men reported having mental problems, compared to only 5 percent of heterosexual men.



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These statistics can be attributed to an increased occurrence of bullying and less sense of self-esteem and self-worth. The worrying part of this survey is that the results span age range and social status. This means that even among the elderly, there is a feeling of insecurity and doubt. Unaddressed, these mental illness could lead to potential safety hazards. Several studies on depression have shown that members of the LGBT community are more likely to attempt (and succeed in) suicide than any other recorded population. Sexual minorities were also twice more likely to have negative experiences with primary care services, according to a study published in the Journal of General Internal Medicine.

These data creates a silent plea among health providers and facilities to create better care and assistance for the LGBT community. The goal would be to provide the same level of comfort and security allocated for the "average" and "normal" person. It is, after all, the most basic of human rights -- to feel accepted and be treated with the same level of respect.



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Thursday, August 28, 2014

REPOST: GLEH Garden Party: L.A. LGBT Center Underscores Need to Help Seniors

 This Frontiers LA article puts an emphasis on the importance of helping LGBT seniors.

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An estimated 300 people crowded into David Cooley’s lovely backyard in Hancock Park for the annual Gay & Lesbian Elder Housing Garden Party on Sunday, this year hosted by their new partners, the L.A. LGBT Center. GLEH’s merger with the Center last April was enthusiastically applauded by seniors and GLEH leaders at the event.

“I think it’s marvelous,” said Alice Herman, pictured above with her friend, Center CEO Lorri Jean. “This is an opportunity to make everything better.”

Jean met Alice after her legally married partner died and, without spousal benefits and the duel-income, Alice was forced to live in a car. Jean took Alice’s story nationwide in 2010 as part of the Center’s Rock for Equality Campaign as an example of what happens to LGBT elders without federal protections and benefits such as Social Security when a partner or spouse dies. At the time, before the Supreme Court struck Sec. 3 of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act, the Center noted that same sex individuals had been deprived of more than $2 billion in Social Security benefits. (See Alice’s story below). Last week, out Rep. Mark Takano introduced a bill to “fix” loops in Social Security and Medicare. 

GLEH was honored for its work, accepted by GLEH Board Members Ara Babaian, Carolyn Dye, Mike Mueller and Ruth Tittle.

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“This is an opportunity to grow both organizations together. It’s a real gift to bump up the services to seniors a notch,” said Tittle, pictured above on the right with Dye, an attorney who provided pro-bono services to GLEH, and renown housing expert Mercedes Marquez, event co-chair with Hany Haddad. Marquez served both the Obama, Villaraigosa, and Garcetti administrations and joined the Center board at the end of last year.

The Center did not provide estimates on how much money was raised at the event, which featured West Coast bluegrass music from a cool group called the Moonsville Collective as well as a song from Debby Holiday, but the $250 VIP tickets sold out and hosts and sponsorship tickets zoomed into the thousands of dollars.


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Garden party goers munched on great food and downed drinks in the oddly muggy weather as they listened to Jean explain why supporting LGBT seniors must be a top priority for the LGBT community. Jean was introduced by producer/actor Peter Paige. Here’s an excerpt from Jean’s remarks:

The Center has been helping LGBT seniors since our founders first began providing services back in 1969. But we didn’t start a formal seniors program until 1998. Over the years we, like GLEH, have learned things about the LGBT senior population that few understand. Even our own community often does not understand the challenges faced by our seniors. I have actually had very generous and caring members of our community ask me why we need to be helping seniors. The sentiment runs along the lies of: They’re adults, can’t they take care of themselves? This lack of knowledge must be corrected.

Unfortunately, there is very little research on LGBT people, let alone LGBT seniors. But we do know some things. First, how many are there? I looked up some census numbers this morning. Nationwide in 2013, there were an estimated 44 million people aged 65 and older. If LGBT seniors are 5% of the population, that’s 2.2M; 10% - 4.4M. And that number is expected to double by 2030. In Los Angeles, we have 1.2M people aged 65 and older. If we’re 10% of the population, that’s 120,000 LGBT seniors; 5% that’s 60,000. So, the numbers are not small. And that doesn’t count the folks from 50 – 64. Like all seniors, LGBT seniors become more vulnerable as the get older. And this is true regardless of their financial resources. They become vulnerable to scams, to being taken advantage of by caretakers and other unscrupulous people. The vast majority of straight seniors have their kids or other family members to help them and step in when they need it. OUR seniors are four times less likely than their straight counterparts to have children or grandchildren to help them. Our seniors are twice as likely to live alone.

We also know that LGBT seniors are poorer than anyone ever imagined. This is especially true for lesbians. Nationally, lesbian couples age 65 and older have the highest rate of poverty of all couples 65 and older. 9% live at or below the poverty level as compared to 4.6% for gay male couples and 4.1% for straight couples. At Triangle Square, 75% of our residents are at or below the poverty level. The Center has more than 3,300 senior clients. 21% live on less than $1,000 a month. 44% live on less than $2,000 a month. I don’t know how anybody does that in a place as expensive as L.A.. Alarmingly, 22% of our senior clients are food insecure—in other words, on a weekly or monthly basis they don’t know if they’re going to get enough to eat. I’ve mentioned some very specific facts and figures.

But that’s not all we know. We know that our LGBT seniors are the first generation of LGBT people to come out in significant numbers. Out or closeted, they have been mistreated for decades. Many stood on the front lines from the earliest days of our movement for freedom, justice and equality. As a result, many of them not only lost their jobs and careers, they lost their families. They lost custody of children. They were rejected by their parents and siblings. Yet, they persevered. But in their golden years, they far too often become invisible and isolated. The Center is determined to change that.

Many LGBT seniors worked and continue to work hard to make our society a better place for LGBT people, and today that’s a legacy that all of us enjoy. Our future is bright in significant part due to their sacrifices. And I believe it’s our responsibility to not to forget that, or them. We must ensure that LGBT seniors are well cared for. We must do whatever we can so that our seniors are not isolated and invisible, not to themselves or to anyone else. We must strive to protect the people who paved the way for us. Remember, before we get to the younger generations of LGBT people in their 30’s and 40’s, where there has been a gayby boom, we have more than 5 even 6 decades of seniors who are growing old alone. If the Center—the world’s largest LGBT organization of any kind—can’t figure out how to take care of our own elders, many of whom are pioneers…nobody can.

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Thursday, July 31, 2014

Resort-style retirement and assisted living for LGBT seniors in Santa Fe, New Mexico

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According to research by the the Policy Institute of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Foundation, an estimated three million Americans over the age of 65 are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. The population is predicted to reach four million by 2030.

Retirement communities geared specifically towards the LGBT community are a new development, but one that's sorely needed to address the issues of aging in the LGBT community. Many retirees have expressed concern about inherent discrimination either from staff or other residents they are likely to encounter in traditional, “straight” retirement communities and assisted living facilities. There is also a real fear that growing old means having to leave their freedoms and individuality behind.

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LGBT retirees need the options that other segments of the population have: the right to live independently, to be part of a community with like-minded individuals, and to have opportunities to be social and active and inherently themselves. Located in gay-friendly Santa Fe, New Mexico, RainbowVision is one facility that strives to meet these needs and more.

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The resort-style facility offers independent, assisted, and traditional living options, and has been providing a safe haven for LGBT seniors since its establishment in 2006. It features a lounge, a fitness center and spa, a full service salon, and a bevy of entertainment and leisure options.

The city of Santa Fe also provides plenty of opportunities for fun and socialization: the city boasts a number of world-class restaurants, museums, clubs, even an opera. It also has a gay and lesbian index of 201, way above the national norm.

Many residents have formed great friendships and act as each other's support systems.

The community is multicultural, diverse, and prejudice-free. At RainbowVision Santa Fe, retirees can look forward to living in an environment that promotes and values openness and individuality.  

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